I think you want him to understand how you felt and how you feel now more that you want an apology. And it's clear that you want to understand how he feels, too.
But Crois isn't used to this. People here give a shit about him and what he thinks, and he cares so much about everything that he gets overwhelmed. Every time it's happened he's made it clear that none of it is about him. And every time I have to remind him that he's allowed to be upset, too.
[he holds up a hand] That's insight, not me trying to explain away anything.
If you want him to be honest with you? Tell him that you care what he thinks. Ask him to tell you what was going through his head, because he cares you think. He knows that he fucks up. You're not confronting him for answers, you're having a conversation.
Understanding has to go both ways, Ananke. "I'll remember he was upset when he talks to me" comes off in a way I know you don't want it to.
[ He listens quietly, slowly deflating the longer Tyr talks. He starts to respond, thinks better of it, and slouches further in his chair with a weary sigh ]
... Okay. Fine. I'll hear him out when he comes to talk to me.
[he nods, but he gives Ananke a long, searching look before he talks again]
Make sure he hears you out first, though.
You're a good kid - and adults need good people in their lives too, you know? You don't have to listen to any of my advice, I just hope you two can work it out.
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No.
I think you want him to understand how you felt and how you feel now more that you want an apology. And it's clear that you want to understand how he feels, too.
But Crois isn't used to this. People here give a shit about him and what he thinks, and he cares so much about everything that he gets overwhelmed. Every time it's happened he's made it clear that none of it is about him. And every time I have to remind him that he's allowed to be upset, too.
[he holds up a hand] That's insight, not me trying to explain away anything.
If you want him to be honest with you? Tell him that you care what he thinks. Ask him to tell you what was going through his head, because he cares you think. He knows that he fucks up. You're not confronting him for answers, you're having a conversation.
Understanding has to go both ways, Ananke. "I'll remember he was upset when he talks to me" comes off in a way I know you don't want it to.
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... Okay. Fine. I'll hear him out when he comes to talk to me.
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Make sure he hears you out first, though.
You're a good kid - and adults need good people in their lives too, you know? You don't have to listen to any of my advice, I just hope you two can work it out.
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I hope so too. ...Thanks for talking to me, whether or not this helps.
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. . . I know things aren't the best right now, but if you need anything, don't hesitate to ask.
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—Really?! Oye, you're a lifesaver.
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This is gonna save us so much time. Thank you.
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Not necessary. Just keep me updated.
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I'll let you know when we've decided on a plan.